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A blanket apology
Mon 13-Aug-12
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Sooliz
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I am so sorry for not keeping up with everyone's achievements or ills, afraid I have not been around at all recently.  As you know, we are moving house soon (less than 3 weeks now), but that's not really a good enough excuse to ignore you all and I do apologise.

I have been finding things very hard indeed, i have been suffering depression, anxiety, stress, panic attacks, insomnia, lack of concentration and motivation, forgetting things instantly, and a whole host of other things.  Had antidepressants from the GP but have now binned them as they gave me such horrendous side effects (I react quite badly to a lot of drugs).  Am now taking St. Johns Wort instead, it is reckoned to be as effective as the drugs but with far fewer side effects.

I am taking things slowly, trying to do just one or two jobs each day, but still find it hard.  I wish i could wake up tomorrow morning and find we have moved in to the new house already and the intervening weeks have been just a horrid dream.  Sorry again, I hope you are all well big_hug

learning to love veg…..except celery :-O

Mon 13-Aug-12
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1. You have nothing to apologise for.

2. Anti depressants are for when there is no external reason for your misery. You, however, are in the middle of a horrible time. Hold tight! It will pass. If it hasn't got a deadline, don't worry about it.

3. We were saying only this lunchtime – Haven't heard much from Sue lately, she must be up to her neck in it. So you see we are thinking of you, and we really don't expect you to be around. There will be all the time in the world when this nightmare is over.

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Mon 13-Aug-12
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wave  Hi Sue

Jean is quite right, you have absolutely nothing to apologise for.  We are all thinking of you and wishing you well.  I know exactly what you are going through.  It is so stressful, but I am living proof that things can be better when it is all over.  smile   I never thought I would get over all the trauma of moving earlier this year, but believe me when I tell you it will all be worth it.  You have a house you are looking forward to moving into and don't forget this time next year, you may have chickens!!!!  big_laugh

Take care of yourself my dear.  It is useless to tell you not to overdo it, but do try to pace yourself. Your health is so important.  Lots of   big_hug   to you.   We all miss you and look forward to the time when you will be settled and are back with your 'Forum family'

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Mon 13-Aug-12
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I second what Jean has just said.  You know that we need no apologies from you, sending you love and hugs and I hope the herbs work their magic magic very soon.  big_hug

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And what Danuta said! 

I'll try that again!

Mon 13-Aug-12
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We all understand it is difficult for you just now so no need to apologies. We are pleased to see you whenever you can pop in. I hope these last few weeks pass quickly so that you can get on with life again.
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Mon 13-Aug-12
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Getting ready to move is hell & full of stress, but it will pass & then you can relax. You have had a hell of a year, dealing with all your health problems. Just do what you can, when you can & don't worry about anything else. 

We will be here for you, if you want to sound off to us.  

Huge hugs to you both.  big_hug  big_hug

 

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Mon 13-Aug-12
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Sue..face it like a man...go to work each day and expect it to be done when you get home....

 

Chins up..tomorrow is another day and what everyone else has said....big_hug

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Mon 13-Aug-12
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Oh no worries Dear!
I have apologies to make myself, I haven't been around much either and don't have nearly as good reason for it as you do!
Lots of hard times going around for everyone right now, it doesn't seem anyone has escaped bad times.

Times like this you need to keep in mind that old joke/proverb...

How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.

Just concentrate on what's in front of you, and when its done move to the next bit. Don't look at the big picture too often, just enough to make sure you're going in the right direction, then go back to focusing on your small bit.

Lots of hugs big_hug big_hug big_hug for you Sue, you'll get through!

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Tue 14-Aug-12
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Thanks everyone, it means such a lot big_hug

Danuta, you give me hope.  Michelle, I particularly like your idea of focusing on one small bit at a time, rather than the big picture - it is indeed the big picture which has been completely overwhelming me recently.

And I know it is silly o'clock.....but I did go to bed at 10.30 pm last night, which is exceptionally early for me, and I intend going back to bed soon, once my headache has worn off.

Thank you again everyone, bless youkiss

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Tue 14-Aug-12
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I second what they all said- one bit at a time is really sensible- hope all goes well!xbig_hug

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Tue 14-Aug-12
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Sending good wishes through the ether.  Do you have a friend(s) who could come and help you?  You may not feel like company at the moment but another pair of hands and a friendly chat might help to alleviate your stress.  Wishing you all the best and certainly don't apologise for feeling down.

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Thank you Kate and Iris big_hug

Iris, no we don't have any friends or family nearby - one of the reasons we are moving (we will be living next door to friends in the new house smile), so it is a case of having to get on with things alone for the most part, although husband helps when he's home.  I did have long chats with my sister and my best friend yesterday, that helped a lot and I do feel calmer now, despite my lack of sleep last night.

I finished sorting and packing clothes yesterday, that's all done now, thank goodness.  I then made a big pot of chilli and froze it, ready to feed the helpers on moving day (we will at least be having plenty of help on the big day), also made and froze a large batch of cheesy biscuits and already have cakes frozen for snacks.  That's a weight off my mind too and will make things easier on the day, just some crusty bread and salad to buy the evening before.  I'm pleased I managed to do 3 jobs yesterday.

Today, continuing with the 'one job at a time' theme, I'm packing up some of my store cupboard foods/baking items which won't be needed before the move.  I haven't been doing much in the way of baking (or even proper cooking embarassed) recently, have overcome the guilt and accepted that we aren't going to fall ill or suffer unduly from eating a few ready meals or frozen veggies.

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Tue 14-Aug-12
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That's really positive.  I hope you can take comfort from the fact that you have managed to bake etc and do some more packing.  It's good to know you are moving closer to a support network.  Good luck.

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Big big_hug big_hug to you Sue. I can't imagine having to do what you're going through, so I think I'll be staying here forever!

 

Good luck with the St John's Wort, remember it can take up to a month to really kick in. A big dose of vitamin B might help right now. I can only say that the combination of the two, (and vitamin D in winter) helps me a lot.

 

Well done preparing good food for your helpers, a lesser woman would have sent out for chips and icecream!

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