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Sat 12-Feb-11
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danast
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wave  I'm just about ready for my bed now.  yawn    I must admit, I love it when our time coincides Michelle.  Enjoy the roses.

Oh I meant to ask have you managed that important meeting yet?

Old teachers never die, they just lose their class

Sat 12-Feb-11
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Your dinner sounds delish Danuta.  Michelle, I was looking at my roses today, at the end of summer I just chopped off the straggly bits but now they are sprouting so much that I almost cried.  So many more than I had last year.  I do hope that the weather will be kind to them.

I'll try that again!

Sat 12-Feb-11
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Michelle from Oregon
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Not yet. I canceled our meeting with our Case worked for Friday, when I talked to her she sounded like death-warmed-over, and I didn't want her dragging herself out of bed for me. Besides, I didn't want what she has, she sounded terrible!

I might have a little break though, my next job that I was supposed to have this coming week has postponed slightly, so I might be able to shoehorn the meetings in before I have to leave again.

I see you from time to time on Facebook Danast, if you would like to instant message when you see me on, I'd love to chat with you!

Have a good rest!

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Sat 12-Feb-11
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I'm sorry that your meetings are having to be delayed Michelle, everything seems to be so hectic where you are, what is your ultimate plan with this? (Sorry, since you put it up for debate, I assume that you don't mind talking about it?   Beat me about the head if I'm wrong.)

I'll try that again!

Sat 12-Feb-11
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Oh gosh, I'm a open book, but whats written isn't terribly interesting!big_laugh

Dan and I are interested in adopting a family group of kids, so they can all stay together instead of being broken up and placed in different homes.

2 or 3, from a 3 to 9 year old age range, but honestly we are open to whatever feels right.

I was looking at the pictures of a family group of 5 kids the other day, (girl 9, girl 7, boy 5, twin boys 3), I showed them to Dan.

His reply?

"Oh gosh we couldn't do that......but if we put the oldst 2 upstairs.......but thats so many.....the twins could have the big bedroom, and the other boy could have the little bedroom.....thats a lot of kids.......we'd have to baby-gate the stairs.......5, really?"

Don't cha' love him?

I sure do!

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Sat 12-Feb-11
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Gosh, that is the most amazingly selfless thing I have ever heard.  How would you cope with the day to day stuff since you seem to spend a lot of time away from home?  Would you really consider taking on a family of five?

I'll try that again!

Sat 12-Feb-11
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Toffeeapple said:

Gosh, that is the most amazingly selfless thing I have ever heard.  How would you cope with the day to day stuff since you seem to spend a lot of time away from home?  Would you really consider taking on a family of five?


 

Coping? In two words, I'd quit.

That's the plan, I need to work as hard as I can to get our credit card bills cleared, and then I would be a stay at home Mom. Since we would be taking on kids that come from the Department of Human Services, these would be kids that survived abuse or neglect of some sort. And I would have to be home so I can advocate for my kids and make sure they get the help and services that they need.

That is one of the reasons why I want to set up my employee, I am hoping to trade with him, so eventually he woulld run the buisness and I would be able to do an ocasional project, like one every couple of months versus gone all the time.

Thanks for the selfless part. big_hug If you would have heard the stories of some of those kids that have been removed from abusive situations, you couldn't help but step up too.

(SOrry that took so long to respond, my expected rain is being preceeded by a horrid wind and everything is getting blown away outside! I have to go tie things down, so goodnight folks!)

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Sun 13-Feb-11
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Michelle from Oregon said:

Thanks for the selfless part. big_hug If you would have heard the stories of some of those kids that have been removed from abusive situations, you couldn't help but step up too.

(SOrry that took so long to respond, my expected rain is being preceeded by a horrid wind and everything is getting blown away outside! I have to go tie things down, so goodnight folks!)


 

I disagree Michelle, I think some folks read the stories and run a mile. You are a very brave woman big_hugwith an enormous heartheart and I admire you immensely. Your hubby is also a star star

Sun 13-Feb-11
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JoannaS said:

I disagree Michelle, I think some folks read the stories and run a mile. You are a very brave woman big_hugwith an enormous heartheart and I admire you immensely. Your hubby is also a star star


 Couldn't agree more, Joanna, but Michelle don't take on too much! 

Five children would be a lot of work - and that's not exaggerating! whew! For you and Dan to take on five, you would need a huge amount of help and support, particularly as you say they are children with history. 

On the plus side, giving a whole family like this the opportunity to live a normal life in a loving family would be such an achievement, and Michelle, for you and Dan it sounds like it may be a possibllity.

I'd love to be there with you, Michelle to make it happen for you! heart 

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"You don't spell it, you feel it" (Pooh).

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Sun 13-Feb-11
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Thanks for the prop-up Ladies, I do appreciate the kind words!

BS, we will try not to over reach ourselves, but its so hard. I just want to scoop them all up and take them home with me. I wish you could to, I know you'd be a great friend to have standing by!

The enviroment that these kids come from, it just makes you want to cry, or grab a crowbar and look for a dark alley.monster

Here's a good example, and if you are very sensative, skip the rest of this post please......

One of the stories I heard during training involved a girl who is now older, but relating the tale of her life up to 6 years old. She had been physically and sexually abused and alternately neglected at the hands of her father. She was fishing with him one day, and he turned to her and said-

"You know, I could throw you in the river right now, and walk away. And I would never miss you".

How can I not help?

 

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Michelle, I completely understand where you're coming from - I think you know that ... smile .

 

I watched a film on TV - called 'Seeing Red', starring Sarah Lancashire, who played an actress called Coral Atkins - available on Amazon here.

Scroll down the page and read the review - the final line:

It becomes obvious that it isn't academic training that cures children, its a gift of empathy, gentleness and understanding their needs.

I could watch that film over and over.

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Sun 13-Feb-11
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brightspark said:

Michelle, I completely understand where you're coming from - I think you know that ... smile .

 

I watched a film on TV - called 'Seeing Red', starring Sarah Lancashire, who played an actress called Coral Atkins - available on Amazon here.

Scroll down the page and read the review - the final line:

It becomes obvious that it isn't academic training that cures children, its a gift of empathy, gentleness and understanding their needs.

I could watch that film over and over.

heart   big_hug

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I know you do BS. big_hug

Thats why you are going to be our Fairy Godmother, remember?

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Sun 13-Feb-11
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heart big_hug smile

"How do you spell 'Love'?" (Piglet). 

"You don't spell it, you feel it" (Pooh).

 'A hug,' said Pooh 'is always the right size!' 

Mon 14-Feb-11
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It breaks your heart indeed. While in America there was a young girl that couldn't stay with her foster parents as they didn't feel it was right to take her on long term - it was a hard decision for them but they had other children too with their own problems but seeing how she tried to make them change their minds and how she then detached herself, and also what she went through when visiting another potential adoptive family that didn't work out nearly broke me. I would have taken her in an instant but we knew we would be leaving and she was American. I see pictures of kids and wonder what she is doing and whether she is okay now. So pleased there are folks like you Michelle with such big hearts to take them.cheers

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