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11:05 pm
Supreme Being
Thu 24-Sep-09
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Oh I have felt so out of sorts today. I woke up with a heavy head, not sore, but I didn't want to move at all. However with three dogs I have to get up. Nothing has been right today. But there is nothing I could pinpoint. Everything has annoyed me and I am glad today is almost over.
I had a meeting this afternoon and nearly yelled at them all. It seemed as if every time I wanted to put forward a point someone else just spoke and I never managed to put forward my point of view. Then a friend called and nagged me about the Development Trust and then told me she had broken a confidence. I had asked her not to tell anyone of a decision I had made and she told people who will probably talk about it. It's not desperately awful, but of course today I magnified it one hundred fold. No ducklings have hatched and I suspect it will soon be too long a time to hope for some.
I suspect I am just tired after a long day yesterday and I have a long dental appointment in the morning, but whatever, laughter has been low on the agenda today and I couldn't bring myself out of it. I'm sure I will be fine tomorrow.
Tell me what do you do to motivate yourself when you feel this way?
Old teachers never die, they just lose their class
11:27 pm
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Sat 21-Aug-10
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Oh poor you, sending you a 
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What do I do on a day like that? Good question, and it strikes me it would be good to have a formula to fall back on. I do journal, writing seems to help me to sort out my thoughts and get things in perspective. I tend to treat myself to something comforting, curl up cosy with a book and hot chocolate for a few minutes and forget the upsets of the day. I have a stash of little gifts - little oddments that have taken my fancy from time to time. I leave them wrapped and untouched until a day comes when I decide I deserve a present.
But motivatation? Thats a hard one. Mostly I just keep plodding on and trust that the feeling will pass. I hope you wake up feeling better tomorrow - plan a treat for after the dental appointment so theres something to look forward to.
Shame about the duckings. Will you try again in the spring?
Never assume anything - except an occasional air of intelligence.
11:49 pm
Councillor
Tue 22-Sep-09
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Oh Danast, I'm sorry, days like that really stink!
You know, I read a book a while back, it wasn't anything important, just a fun novel, and the characters would do something that they called a "Poor Baby" for someone that was having a hard time. Broken down, it involved good listeners, cranberry-orange muffins, and possibly a strong drink. The person who was having the hard day got to vent, and the only thing everyone else got to say was "Oh, I'm sorry, you poor baby" in a very supportive tone. I think of that scene and it makes me smile.
Its the same book that I took my new signature line out of, "If you can't be a shining example, be a terrible warning!" 
Maggenpie, I like the little gifts idea!
Not to be too much of a girly-girl, but a hot bath, a good book and a nice sweet, chocolate, cake, goodie of some sort does help.
But you know, on the flip side of that, a good big pile of firewood needing to be stacked, or a pile of dirt that needs to be moved, or a yard that needs to have the leaves raked up will help sometimes too.
But, I'd rather have the sweet!
If you can't be a shining example, be a terrible warning!
6:15 am
Supreme Being
Mon 21-Sep-09
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Aww Danuta a 
from me. What works for me when I am grumpy it is usually a chunter at God at the way things are, a deep breath and then a look outside the window; I think like me Danuta there is a beautiful world just outside our windows and then I feel really lucky to be there, even if it is raining, it is still beautiful. A nice hot chocolate and a comfy chair while I sit and contemplate with God what exactly is the problem and what I can do about it, if I can't do anything about it then I lay it down and leave it, if I can that is, I sometimes have to do this quite a bit before I really can lay it down and leave it 
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I would have a hot bath Michelle but we haven't got one in our flat, just a shower
. I like the ideas of the presents too Magenpie but I don't think I will ever get that organised or disciplined to only open one on a bad day 
8:36 am
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Tue 22-Sep-09
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I know the feeling Danuta!
I distract myself by making things- but if they start to go wrong I stop that and revert to the book/hot drink/cat/blanket/sofa option.
But only once I've finished crashing about the house, thumping the stuffing out of cushions and pillows and slamming doors and sighing and tutting loudly at just about everything else and making pointed ( and pointless) remarks about 'mess' and shouting at the radio....
Kateuk makes things at http://www.etsy.com/shop/finkstuff and sometimes she does this too http://www54paintings.blogspot.com/ and also this http://finkstuff.weebly.com/
9:15 am
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Sat 21-Aug-10
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This thread has really set me thinking, because I do get what seems to be more than my fair share of stressy days, just because of the way my life has worked out. What really gets me is the feeling of injustice. Not fair that you didn't get a chance to voice your opinions Danast, not fair that your friend broke your trust, not fair that you had to deal with all that on a day when you didn't feel so great any way. Yet there's nothing we can do to change what happens on a day like that, so much is beyond our control that we just have to live with it.
So what helps me? Doing something positive. If I can't change the stuff thats upsetting me I can find something else that will make a difference. Make bread by hand, thats a good one for a bad mood - like chopping fire wood - and you get to eat the results. Having calmed down a bit, make cake. Paint a wall. Weeding, thats a good one. Pruning sounds attractive but I know that seceteurs and a bad mood aren't a good combination unless there's something I really want to destroy.
I'm going to write this stuff down somewhere.
Never assume anything - except an occasional air of intelligence.
11:21 am
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Tue 22-Sep-09
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Oh you poor love! Have some of these I usually try to get out and talk to someone about anything, if I have days like that. I do hope that today you are feeling very much better and have a more positive mood.
I'll try that again!
3:14 pm
Supreme Being
Thu 24-Sep-09
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Oh thanks everyone for your kind comments and your brilliant ideas. I am feeling so much better today ( still a bit grumpy, but not too bad )
I will admit to being really disappointed about the duck eggs in the incubator. It is now 2 days past the hatching date, but I will leave them for a while yet .
My visit to the dentist was rather strange. All their computer systems were down and they could not access anything at all. No patient records, so the dentists could do very little. They were scared they would do the wrong thing. I did get a wee filling because it was so obvious and he remembered what he was going to do. The place was just chaos. What did we ever do before computers?
Thanks again folks. to you all
Old teachers never die, they just lose their class
3:42 pm
Supreme Being
Wed 30-Dec-09
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Danuta - have you got low pressure in your skies up there - cos it happens to me too when the pressure is low. I'm wishing you some high pressure - then you'll feel more upbeat and be supergran (and not Grumpy Gran). 
Perhaps just a little one - ?
-V-, x
5:45 pm
Supreme Being
Thu 24-Sep-09
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What a wonderful idea Val. Might just try that later on.
It is very very windy here and very overcast with little showers now and then , so yes low pressure. Mind you if I was down every time there was low pressure in Scotland then I really would be a Grumpy Gran. I have had a nice quiet afternoon and am now off to feed dogs and hens and ducks.
Old teachers never die, they just lose their class
5:50 pm
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Sat 21-Aug-10
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Aha, so it was decided on some higher plane that you shouldn't have to suffer at the dentist's today! I hope you've made time to do something nice for yourself this afternoon.
Never assume anything - except an occasional air of intelligence.
6:19 pm
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¦.and the "not going to" post on Sept 5th seems appropriate to this thread¦:-)
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