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Extreme poverty...
Tue 1-Nov-11
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Toffeeapple said:

kayerunrig said:

she must like him cos she hasnt brought him home !!

big_laugh  What is a dweeb Kaye, I've missed out on that one.

Dim wit ever eagerly besotted....maybe....big_laughbig_laughbig_laughbig_laugh

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Tue 1-Nov-11
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That sounds fairly accurate, Elsa  big_laugh

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Wed 2-Nov-11
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think that sums him up

Wed 2-Nov-11
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at least he won't argue with you!

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Thu 10-Nov-11
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im having one of those lose the will to live phases, financially  things are going to go really bad, OH has managed to prolapse a disc in his neck so has an operation and 12 weeks off work to look forward to . Hes going to work at the moment despite being told not to, because he wont get a penny  if he doesnt . we have barely kept our heads above water the last 6 months, my job is dying a death and is so erratic these days its no help , im looking for work but theres not many vacancies , but i really would take anything at the moment. We contacted the CSA who just said they would take his driving licence if he stops paying ,though legally they can only take £5 a week from SSP, they then pointed out he will be further in arrears when he goes back to work so they will then leave him with £515 a month to live on , that is for a family of 5!! they dont have to make any allowances for a second family , they once again advised us to split up, at least my daughter is going to pay the rent because her bursery is due from university .....its a bizarre situation and you cant even get a solicitor because you dont get legal aid, weve been their before and had our MP involved and got nowhere ....rant over

Thu 10-Nov-11
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The only thing I can think of to suggest is the CAB, but I'm sure you've tried that already.  Is it possible that you may be able to get legal aid when your OH is off work, as your circumstances will then have changed?

My heart goes out to you, Kaye - the stress, with worrying about OH and how you're going to struggle to cope must be enormous.  Make sure you look after yourself.

All I can say is that you cope marvellously, you're always managing to come up with nourishing meals from next to nothing, and you do seem to be extremely resourceful.  I think adversity makes us stronger, when we come up against a brick wall we automatically try to find ways around it.  I hope you find some solutions, Kaye. big_hug

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Thu 10-Nov-11
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My god woman, you do manage to get kicked in the teeth when you are down don't you?  I don't understand the benefits system but am amazed that you have been advised to split up!  Does family mean nothing any more?  I hope you manage to find something to keep you all going Kaye.  big_hug

I'll try that again!

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surely OH would be entitled to some sort of temporary invalidity benefit or whatever it is called today. I strongly advise going to CAB. My daughter and her husband have used them recently and their advice helped them get the council tax paid which has made a big difference

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Thu 10-Nov-11
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he will only get SSP. because im self employed all their calculations are based on last years earnings when i was full time not 2 days a week that i am now , so we dont get anything, we applied for tax credits and they said we were entitled to £4.60 because it is also based on last years earnings . Housing Benefit and Council Tax Benefit do not allow for CSA payments as a deduction my OH pays over £500 a month to them and we have at least another 3 years of this , his children are 21 and 16 and neither of them see a penny and never have , where the money goes is a mystery that the CSA doesnt bother to explain, we did a freedom of information request and it never mentions any arrears , this all stems from his daughter turning 18 and being in employment and we queried why his payments hadnt reduced , they reassesed it back to 1993 and he suddenly owed thousands due to a data error , we then got our MP involved he was gobsmacked by the whole thing but even he couldnt get an answer

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I despair, I really do!  Why should he have to pay for a 21 year old?  Shaking my head in disbelief.  I feel for you - I really do.

I'll try that again!

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considering you cannot get family allowance for a 21 year old why should you still be expected to support an adult? It is also wrong to be assessed on last years earnings when this years are so reduced. It is so unjustyell

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Toffeeapple said:

I despair, I really do!  Why should he have to pay for a 21 year old?  Shaking my head in disbelief.  I feel for you " I really do.

Wait for your letters on your deferred pension TA¦.they had the nerve to stop me tax on it¦I was livid¦.I hope you do better than I did¦.

 

They have out number so the b**tards just keep hitting the ones that are on record¦ and as for the CSA....they nail the ones they can....think of all the 'unfathered' children...watch Jeremy Kyle....England my England....aarghaarghaargh

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Is this any help? Link It kind of sounds like getting the right kind of solicitor.cheers

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Elsa, I am aware that I shall be paying tax out of my pension, it is the way of the British.

I'll try that again!

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Toffeeapple said:

Elsa, I am aware that I shall be paying tax out of my pension, it is the way of the British.

Yes but my point is TA that you shouldn't have to....Why should they stop tax on money that you could have had paid to you monthly and invested....well... it was called an investment years ago.... before the interest dropped to zilch.eeekeeek  

My theory is that it's always 'Middle England' that suffers especially if you have done your bit by paying into the taxation system for approximately forty five years plus....roll_eyesroll_eyes

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