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Our hearts are so precious. They need to be cherished.

Inca getting bored of being photographed

Inca getting bored with being photographed

Danny and I are splitting up. It’s very painful and I’m feeling so sad and desolate.

We have been together for 15 years. We were always good friends. He has never ceased to be a fun, intelligent and charming companion. He has shared so much knowledge. He always surprised and entertained me.

He also loved my Min Pin dogs. Scorned by so many in the past.

Unfortunately physically I could never be the slim, svelte lady that he really wished to have on his arm.  And there’s the rub for both of us.

It has been hard for me to look in a mirror for years.

In the end I think that we both realised that we had find separate paths.

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  1. elrohana

    I’m very sorry to hear that, Fiona, for both of you. I hope you manage to find a way through this and remain friends, 15 years is a lot of life to leave behind.

  2. So sorry to hear this. I echo the sentiments above.

  3. Shereen

    I’m so sorry to hear that, Fiona. I’m glad you had fun for most of your time together. Take care of yourself, and I hope you get all the necessaries sorted as straightforwardly and quickly as possible xx

  4. You are going to need Inca to cuddle over the next few months till you start to heal :(. I am really sorry that you are splitting up for whatever reasons. If Danny is preoccupied by your shape, he isn’t the right man for you! Please accept the hug of a stranger from across the sea… nothing hurts more than losing familiar territory whether your relationship was well and truly over or not, it still takes a whole lot of healing to find life on your own again. Please feel free to vent and explore and share on the blog. We are all here to give you positive feedback and affirmation :)

  5. Oh my goodness, how terribly sad. My heart goes out to you.

  6. Michelle from Oregon

    I wish I had some wonderful comforting words for you Fiona.
    I send you and Danny both my Love! (((HUG)))

  7. Sue Burton

    So sorry to hear this. Hope you will both find happiness in the not too distant future. Have missed your posts hope you will continue posting when you feel strong enough. Best wishes xxx

  8. Patricia Mason

    Read ‘Love After Love’ a poem by Derek Walcott, then look in that mirror and love yourself! Sending you a hug.


  9. KathyinLondon

    Really sorry to hear your sad news. You are hurting and one day you will see that you have to love yourself first, yes, bumps and all, then see how lovely you really are. Hold your head high and take care of yourself.
    Best wishes x

  10. Oh Fiona…love to you both…no easy words…X

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